Add _PyType_LookupRef and use incref before setting attribute on type
Makes setting an attribute on a class and signaling type modified atomic
Avoid adding re-entrancy exposing the type cache in an inconsistent state by decrefing after type is updated
gh-113750: Fix object resurrection on free-threaded builds
This avoids the undesired re-initializing of fields like `ob_gc_bits`,
`ob_mutex`, and `ob_tid` when an object is resurrected due to its
finalizer being called.
This change has no effect on the default (with GIL) build.